Two simple steps to a great relationship

It doesn't take a great deal in the way of time and rescources to improve your relationship. Here is a simple and often surprisingly speedy way to achieve this in just 20 minutes each day.

We all know deep down how much we love the people closest to us. The problem is we don't always show it Modern life is pressured and it's all too easy to get stressed. Over time having our life partner and other family members around becomes familiar and we don't always express how much they mean to us. This is understandable but undesirable.

I am often surprised even shocked at the way people speak and act in dealing with those closest to them. It's a fact that some people show more coutesy to strangers than their family members.

When this subject arises as it often does in my workshops or email feedback from my ecourse people often tell me that they behave like this because they feel that they can get away with it at home. This suggests that they are behaving in ways that would not be tolerated at their place of work or in other interpersonal situations.

It's a sad fact that these individuals are behaving in a worse manner around their families than almost anyone else they come into contact with!

Whilst their negative behaviour may appear to be tolerated it is resented and over time damages the relationships that are most precious to them. it's impossible to be on our best behaviour 24/7. We all at times say things that we don't mean?t mean to. The important thing is to show that we care so that our occasional lapses can be forgiven and forgotten. Those closest to us make lapses too of course. This means that they are able to understand that we are only human and sometimes get things wrong.

Psychologists know that there are two short intervals in the day when it is particularly important for a couple or family to enjoy a warm rapport. These are when we get up in the morning and when we return home at the end of the day.

A smile, a hug, a shared joke at these times will pay dividends in keeping your close relationships happy and healthy.

Finding a life partner is only the first step on the great adventure that you will share as a couple. It's equally importantant to keep your relationship happy and healthy. With care and attention you can have a relationship that not only stays happy and positive but gets better and better.